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I thought I would like to explain something which people often jumble together. Love, convenience and being in love with idea of love. So confusing, I know!
It's not easy to understand the difference between actually loving someone and loving someone for the sake of being in love! read up, this might help.
When prone to fall in love, we take all aspects into consideration like convenience, time, proximity and of course socio-cultural factors. The moment you start considering such factors and weighing out the benefits and possible detriment, be ready to face that you are looking for the convenient love!
Why should love be so easy anyway? it should be the most difficult thing in the world to do! So when you have worked hard for it, you know you deserved it, and when finally achieved, it should be cherished like none other. Love should be hard work, shouldn't be everyone's cup of tea, really!
Love should be like a voice of sanity in this crazy, selfish world, it should teach one to have patience yet leave no control over one's feelings, like an X factor. Something inevitable, something for which you are ready to exchange your life for. You'd travel the world just to catch one glimpse of that person, you'd do the impossible just to make things possible for that person. ...love should be everything but convenient!
You can disagree with me, tell me love should be easy..so easy that people fall in and out love couple hundred times in their lives out of boredom! some love eh!
xoxo
interesting take on the subject. Makes me realize I am gonna be in the convenient love then... lets see.
ReplyDeleteI am so ready for criticism here :) but that's how I feel.
ReplyDeleteNo criticism here. I actually agree with your take on it. I just know myself hence I said about me most likey to be in convenient love. :)
DeleteNice work! You are right! Love is a funny thing. Convenient love is easy, simple, and quick. You fall, not necessarily in love with the person, but with the idea of being in love with someone and some of the things they can provide you with (not always material stuff). True love is usually deeper and longer-lasting and you never want to look back. But in hindsight, if you loved someone out of convenience (and for reasons that may not have had to do with your feelings for him/her per se), then you will out later on it may have not been the concrete, eternal, gratifying love that you now want. Love is a tricky thing. You can fall in convenient love like you said, but is it better than the type of love you know you have for someone and who you know they have for you?
ReplyDeleteIm lost. are u saying that one shouldn't seek convenient love because it won't last? because it's too easy? because it's less likely to last than real true love? explian pls
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ReplyDeletelove shouldn't be like buying a house, you see whether you will be able to commute, if markets are near, if there is a swimming pool near by,that's what i meant.love shouldn't be chosen upon options or anything. it should just happen.
Lets say, there are 2 ppl you are crazy about, one is ur neighbor and other is someone who lives in another state. you shouldn't choose the person based on proximity. you should choose one because u are in love them not cuz it's convenient to walk over and see that person as often as you'd like you should choose ur love because u cant imagine ur life without them. :)
I know there are ppl who feel so strong for the other person but don't want to be with them cuz they cant handle long distance relationship. how is that fair? that's what i meant by convenient love. Weighing out your options before deciding.
Ahhhhhhhhhh I see what you are saying. I agree with dat 100%. so what should you do if that happens? If you love one person a little bit more than another person but but the one person lives half way round the world? do you just find out a way to be with the person that you love da most?? thats a vary vary hard thing to do!! its not so easy! i undersand wut you mean though. convenient life aint always true love!
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